Monday, April 28, 2008

How To Attract Women

Many men want to know how to attract women, as if there is some trick to it. They tend to think of attractive women as some sort of commodity. They don't even feel like men unless they have a gorgeous woman at their beck and call. Most of these guys suffer from terribly low self-esteem. Their entire sense of self-worth is based on dating attractive women, and generally they are single. Therefore, they think of themselves as nothing, or even less than nothing.

The best way to start dating beautiful women is to realize that there is no secret. Don't try to figure out how to attract women, just try to figure out how to be yourself. People with low self-esteem tend to be plagued by problems and insecurities in almost every aspect of their life. They will wonder how to attract women, how to get a good job, how to succeed in life and love, and yet never managed to do any of these things. The secret is not pheromones to attract women, psychological tricks, or any of that nonsense. The secret is simply to have faith in yourself.

I used to not even know how to approach women. They were like the Holy Grail to me. Sure, now and then I would end up on drunken hookups, or go on dates with friends of friends, but in general my self-esteem was terrible, and so was my track record. I tried every trick in the book, but still had no idea how to attract women. I was starting to give in to despair, and believed that I would never find happiness or love.

For me, success only came when I gave up worrying about how to attract women. Instead, I worried about how to be happy with myself. I dedicated myself to the principle that happiness comes not from outside, but from inside. I examined all of the factors in my life, all of the things that I cared about and the things that made me happy. I deepened and enriched my friendships, pursued my creative hobbies, and got in to see a therapist to tackle my low self-esteem. It worked wonders. Now I do not have to worry about how to attract women. I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves me very much. Once I thought of myself as attractive, women began to feel the same way about me. The rest is history.